I remember about 8 years ago or so, our church was having all it’s members take part in this “spiritual gifts survey.” As part of the program we were to meet with one of the pastors to discuss our “results.” I specifically recall the pastor asking me, “so you have had no major traumatic life changing events?” I replied, “not really, my grandpa died in 8th grade and my other grand mother died that year, that was rough….but it was 8th grade.” I remember telling him how my life has been good, so blessed in many ways and not any big traumas or drama!
Well lately I am feeling the trauma and drama of life. It seems to have all hit with a vengeance lately! I feel as if I have become a drama trauma momma! Really we used to be a real low maintenance family! 🙂
All our trauma drama seems to to start with the letter A.
Alzheimer‘s – It’s been 2 and half years since a Dr. first told us Curt has Alzheimer’s. The disease continues to reek havoc in his brain. He is really having trouble communicating what he wants. If he wants some milk to drink, he may say something like, “it goes good…………can i have………..um…..please be patient with me I will get it.” Then he looks at me so sweetly and ask, ” can you get that for me?” So many times I don’t know what he wants, I feel so bad. Just today, as we were heading to a Lax game and I had Curt all layered up with jackets to embrace the changing weather conditions. He tells me he may have to shag some later?!?!?
Mmmm, well being a baseball mom, I figured he was talking about shagging baseballs for Tyler in the outfield (quick baseball lesson, shagging balls simply means picking up or catching baseballs in the outfield after batting practice). So I say, “you are going shag balls for Ty today?”
He replies, “what the heck are you talking about??”
When he says that it is usually a sign, that I need to do a little detective work to figure out what he really meant. Finally after some tricky detective skills that I have become accustomed to, I realize he was saying that, he may have the shed some of his jacket layers later.
So now you get the picture of how this communication thing can be tough at times!
Ankles – As most of you already know, Tyler broke 2 different ankles during basketball games of his senior hoops season. He is healing well and enjoying a good senior season of baseball!!
Appendix – Madi ended up in the emergency room two Sundays ago at 3 am. She awoke suddenly in pain in the middle of the night. After a few moments of prayer, I decided our best option was to take her to the emergency room. We arrived at 3:30am, she was diagnosed by 5:45am and in surgery by 8am. It all moved so fast…….but it did just about send me over the cliff of chaos. I was exhausted and emotionally drained from the whole thing. But, I am thankful for the friends who came to our rescue and helped with Curt and provided me a much needed crutch to limp through the whole thing! 🙂
Thanks goodness 2 and half weeks later she is back playing lacrosse and sporting a cool new scar.
Well this “A”, I really don’t want to talk about. Yep I did this to our beloved van!
It was the result of the perfect storm of everyone, including the dog, yelling for me to help them at the same time. It was just one of those chaotic moments, and I forgot a small detail (detect sarcasm), I got out of the van to get the dog, while the van was still in reverse. And with in seconds I put on my Wonder Woman suit and jumped back into the moving van and guided it out the garage. Tyler who was behind me in the driveway, gets out of his car to see the ensuing damage, and simply says, “what just happened?” I think the worst part of it was the realization I would be with out the van for 4 days and all the paperwork that ensued.
But today is Saturday and I am FINALLY finding a moment to update my blog…..today feels like a normal Saturday. We went to Madi’s Lax game this morning, I am heading out to run some errands with Curt, and Tyler went to baseball practice. A NORMAL day…… there is such comfort and peace in these kind of days. I am praying for more normal days, and special moments to cherish in these wanning moments of a fleeting life. So I have today, and today is good…..and as the saying goes, take it ONE DAY AT A TIME.
Yes we are thankful for TODAY! And I am working real hard not to worry about tomorrow! 🙂
Matthew 6:34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
so funny! i know what shagging some balls was, but my 1st thought was the same as Curt’s!
well i learned something new today about baseball…maybe I can surprise my boston red sox fan hubby! LOl….seriously, wow, Sandy!! even in the midst of all this chaotic A stuff happenin’ you are still maintaining grace and dignity and humor. Enjoy your normal Saturday!!!! and yup…ONE DAY AT A TIME, SWEET JESUS!!
Praising God for your normal day!
The communication when they lose their vocabulary is quite a challenge, isn’t it!
Here’s hoping you don’t go through the entire alphabet, 4 items at a time! 🙂
amazing story , Praise God , He is always faithful …
Thanks for the update. I admire your positive attitude! I say a prayer for you folks every day.
oh boy, you gotta watch out for those “A’s”. Sandy your sense of humor and grace through a bunch of stuff that even one of would send me into a tailspin is amazing. May God continue getting you through!
There are periods in life when you being to wonder, “What else can happen?”, and then you find out. And other periods in
life that move along with little more than a hiccup of the unexpected. I’ve had both. And in some very small way I can relate to the challenges you write about. How could we manage if not for God’s promises and comfort? And the certainty of knowing “this life is not all there is”. Thank you for sharing your heart and life, Sandy.
You made me laugh and cry…all in about 45 seconds! Thanks for taking the time to write as you help me grow in my faith as I watch you hold on to Jesus as you walk this road. I love you, Sister! You are teaching me…daily!
Oh wow — when it rains, it pours, as the saying goes. Hope you have a whole string of normal days, as much as can be had with Alzheimer’s, for a while before the next set. Glad we can find Him faithful and His strength sufficient in every circumstance.
It seems like the hits (no pun intended) just keep coming your way. But you never seem totally beat down or discouraged. You are very encouraging to us all! Praying for you and your family.
I LOVED reading your blog. Wonderful honesty and it reminded me of our same journey. I wish we lived closer so we could meet in person. Hugs sent to you….