Our neighbors across the street are moving. They have lived across the street from us for 13 years. It’s sad to see them go, but it’s even sadder to understand why they are moving and all that they are leaving behind. Their family has fallen apart due to a divorce. So now the dad is alone, in what was once a bustling family abode filled with 3 kids, and a fat dog! ( We loved their dog BTW, he once jumped 15 feet off our deck into the woods!) Now it is just a shell of that former happy home. Every Monday I see signs of their former life dragged down the driveway to the curb, awaiting a date with the trash men the next morning. So much of what they worked hard to build their family on is now trash, fodder for the stinky, old trashcans. I have seen old Barbies, skateboards, videos, hockey sticks, books, fancy wooden hangers, fabric, shoes, art work, pictures……snippets from a life once lived in that house.
So every Monday for the last month as I see more of their life sitting in the trash cans at the end of their driveway, I am gently reminded how life and family are so much more then STUFF! A home is not built on having the newest flat screen TV, the best swingset in the neighborhood, a Wii, new bikes for everyone, a fancy Kitchen Aid mixer, a nice couch, new carpet and new wallpaper, these are all nice things but that is all they are….things. The things do not bring the joy and harmony to a home. And all these things will someday be sold in a yard sale, given away, dragged out for trash, they will be gone and worthless.
Concepts like a strong Godly marriage built on a commitment to the Lord and each other, unconditional love, communication, fun together, time spent building a relationship, these are the THINGS that really matter. The treasured stuff of this world will someday end up at the end of your driveway as trash. But a home built on biblical foundations with time spent working on those concepts will survive through the good and the bad.